My husband and I recently started a new bible study in Romans 15. I have personally read Romans multiple times, but never in light of my spouse. Our key verse was Romans 15:7, but we started at 1 just to get some context…
Romans 15:1 “We who are strong ought to bear with the failings of the weak and not to please ourselves.”
I’m not going to lie, this is a verse I’d normally just try to go around because it is loaded! But we can break it down. Everyone has a weakness–whether that be their faith, what they eat, how they react, etc. This verse is telling us that when you’re in the presence of someone who has a particular weakness, help carry the load!
For instance, if your spouse has problems staying healthy, tagging her in desserts on Facebook, drinking Dr. Pepper in front of her, and bragging about how you don’t have to work out is exactly what not to do! Encourage them in eating right, try to eat healthy when around them, encourage being active.
Romans 15:2 “Each of us should please his neighbor for his good, to build him up.”
I want to make sure I read that right… Each of us should please our husband for HIS good, to build HIM up. This is so important! We are being good, gentle, kind, patient with our spouse for THEIR good, not OURS! Keep that in mind on laundry day. 😉
Romans 15:3 “For even Christ did not please himself but as it is written: ‘the insults of those who have insulted you, have fallen on me.'”
Be like Christ. He laid down his life for you and me, surely we can do that for our spouse.
Romans 15:4 “For everything that was written in the past was written to teach us, so that through endurance and the encouragement of the scriptures we might have hope.”
Everything in the Bible was written so we could be taught. So that by steadily reading the Bible and encouragement we will have hope. Get in the Word! This world is corrupt. Satan is on the prowl. Fill your mind with God’s word–who He says you are. You are a child of God. Even in your weakness you are strong in Him.
*Pause* Okay, before we read the next few verses, this is where I saw scripture in a new light. Whenever a spirit of unity is talked about, I always thought of the church. How as a church, we are one. But reading this with my husband by my side, I saw it as our marital oneness. *Resume*
Romans 15:5 “May the God who gives endurance and encouragement give you a spirit of unity among yourselves as you follow Christ.”
Wake up call! God gives us the endurance and the encouragement to keep our marriage alive. He gives us the endurance and encouragement for a spirit of unity, oneness.
In your marriage, you are after the same goals: to become closer to each other, to see each other grow mentally and spiritually, and to be closer to Christ. So why do we find ourselves keeping score? Remember friends, we are working together for a common goal. It’s a simple truth to understand, but so easily forgotten.
Romans 15:6 “so that with one heart and one mouth you may glorify the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ.”
Again, this is so good to think about in light of your marriage. If we aren’t encouraging our spouse to be closer to Christ, what are we doing? You got it; the exact opposite. You and your husband (or you and your wife) are one! With ONE heart and ONE mouth. Yearn for Jesus and each other with that heart. Praise God with that mouth.
Romans 15:7 “Accept one another, then, just as Christ accepted you in order to bring praise to God.”
Accept one another. It is considered PRAISE to God when we accept one another.
Chances are you and your spouse don’t do everything the same. You load the dishes differently, you shower at different times, your free time is spent differently. I am speaking to my own heart, as much as I am yours, but friend we have to accept our spouse. Let them be the person you fell in love with. Sure, they have quirks but everyone does. And you chose each other.
I encourage you to read Romans 15 with your spouse or just in general. Think of practical ways you can apply the scripture to your life TODAY! Let’s accept one another to bring praise to God.